Dating In Cyberspace

Have you ever gotten the impression that internet dating isn't really dating? After all, you don't get to look into the eyes of your potential lover. There are no chances to hold hands or kiss. So how could that be a date?

But the time you spend with a potential romantic partner online has some qualities of a date. The internet gives you the chance to engage in long dialogs and chats and even show the romantic and fun side of your personality without any of the expectations and anxieties of a one on one date. You can ask questions, learn about family, work or health issues that could become part of a future romantic involvement and decide how to set the tone for a long term relationship that works.

But for many of us, how to go about finding good romantic partners and then "dating" in the cyber world can be a bit puzzling. So it's good to have some ideas on how to get the most out of the online version of dating to set up the chance to meet the love of your life in person when the time is right.

It's ok if you initially approach the world of cyber romance like a game. Even in dating outside of the internet, having a fun loving attitude keeps you interested and able to work through the system. Finding the right dating service is the first big step. You can interview friends and read reviews to see if any of the pay sites work well for them. But keep in mind that many of the free social networking sites such as MySpace and Facebook are often as good as the paid sites for meeting new people.

The key to good online dating is your profile. Think about this profile the same way you would when you go to a social setting where you might meet a member of the opposite sex for dating. So fill it out as completely as possible but also make that profile interesting, flirtatious and mysterious enough to make the guy or gal reading it want to know more about you.

Ease into the online relationship politely and with a mature attitude realizing that the person you are approaching is cautious but curious about you. On social networking services, you can often send a message through the service just introducing yourself an offering to start a friendship. Keep it there in the friendship arena because that is safe ground for any relationship.

Once that first meeting is done, the cycle for moving from the internet to that actual first meeting is well defined and set up to allow greater and greater awareness before you actually breathe the same air as your date. You start with email, instant messaging chats and the exchange of photos. The idea here is to make sure this person is who he or she says she is and begin to learn more about them.

That first step of meeting should be put off until you have used all of the internet tools to get very comfortable with getting together. In the modern internet age, there are webcams that can be used so you can have an online conversation and look at each other in real time to get a much better idea of who this person is. A webcam can be used with a microphone so your time together is like a supercharged phone call which can be used frequently and at any time of the day or night to build that romance and prepare for an actual date.

It will be exciting when you meet for the first time and see her smile or feel the touch of his/her hand in yours. But don't think of that first time you look across the table at this exciting new romantic partner as your first date. You already had plenty of "dates" through the internet so you are well on your way to a long and warm relationship with this new romantic interest and possibly a whole lot more.

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