How to Handle a Bad Behaving Teen

As you know, if your child is a teen they are trying to feel their way through the transition from childhood to adulthood. Remember, teens aren't little kids so they deserve some credit for growing older. At the same time, teens aren't adults so they can't be entitled to total independence.

The first step to dealing with a teen is giving them space in areas you can compromise to. For example, if your son or daughter genuinely wants to somewhere like the mall or the movies, don't try to crowd their independence. As long as they're really going to these places, there's no harm in letting them go and it may actually net you some credit in their mind. Don't act like you letting them go is a big deal, just casually mention them to text you every hour or so if you want to keep track of them.

Secondly, explain to them in non-dramatic, plain terms why there are certain things you won't allow them to do. This may include dating or going to certain parties. If they question your reasoning, help them understand by explaining to them why you're saying not right now. Emphasize that it is out of concern for their safety and that certain things are out of their control should they get caught in a bad spot. Real life examples of the very things you wish to prevent are a great way of hammering your point home.

Last, set a good example for your child with your own behavior. A strong, successful parent goes a long way to molding a similar child. Remember the old saying, the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree.

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